Seeking My Best Self

trying to make sense of my life – and lose some weight


Happy New Year!

Do you create New Year’s resolutions? I used to, but I would be depressed by February, because I rarely kept the resolutions for more than a week or two. A few years ago, I came across an idea that I expanded and refined. I call it the Focus List. It’s been a life-changer. Read all about it: Ariyawen Focus List.

Give it a try! It’s harder (and more fun) than you’d expect. Allow an hour or more to finish. I’ll wait here until you’re done.


Now that you’ve created the list, what do you do with it?

Look at it. Read it through, daily if possible. That’s all. Don’t stress about it. Don’t ‘focus’ on it. Just read it. As the year progresses, you’ll find that you naturally make time for these items. These are the things that you’re most excited about, after all.

It’s also a good reference for those times when other things try to crowd in. The list creates accountability to the important, making it easier to boot the urgent. It’s not selfish to do this. We are here to accomplish the things we are uniquely gifted to do. We can’t do that if we allow other things to usurp our time and energy.

But, but… what about all those OTHER things that are important? What about the next seven? And the next?

Save ’em for next year. We can’t do everything at once. We really can’t. I don’t know about you, but I got tired of doing a poor job of many things. That only INCREASED my stress.

So I decided to FOCUS. 

focus 2014


Here’s my list ———————->


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